Return home and shi's rules.

Shi is still on her extended trip, returning home in a few weeks. As shi explained in her last post, there has been a long period where we were forced to return to a more "normal" relationship as shi had some long running health issues to contend with which are no longer an issue.
I, for my part, had no intention of jeopardising her return to health by enforcing "the rules" and punishing any deviation. Which leads me nicely on to my main point.
In my opinion, for what it is worth, it is part of the role of Master/Owner to ensure that his possession is looked after and that steps are taken to ensure that their health and welfare are always of paramount importance. Failure to respect this diminishes the Master in the eyes of his possession and that will always be to the detriment of their bond.
However, what we did incorrectly was just assuming that we wanted or needed to remain as we became, in a normal relationship. Conversation about each others needs dried up during the long period concerned, that was our fault, and a lesson learned.
Despite everything, we are the same. Nothing has changed, especially the desire.There will be rules, starting with those detailed on this site, and they will be enforced. Shi has her instructions on her new attire, which shi will make on her return once we have resourced a suitably harsh fabric. We are not going back to square one, just back sufficiently to build some resilience, which will be low after a long break.

A good day! Yay!!

It's been a great day! 
Lunchtime, shi and I both had our eyes tested. New glasses will be ready on Wednesday.
Then, mid afternoon, shi had my mark tattooed above her left breast. Yep, shi is owned, now with collar and mark to show it.
I am a very happy Master.

Slavery, the Ying and the Yang

There is  common conception of slavery. Chains, whips, pain, harsh discipline and submission. To live this lifestyle 24/7 would be hard, if not impossible over a long period.
Before shi and I came together in RL, we agreed that our lifestyle would need balance if it was to avoid "burnout". Neither of us have an asbestos constitution!
There also has to be a certain practicality to everyday life, so I work, shi tends to the home and our everyday needs, just like a vanilla relationship, with a few twists. Lets face it, we won't get far without cash, and the home would soon become a dump without attention. So some roles are forced on us by necessity.
We have our "play-time", which is getting firmer and longer to build endurance and tolerance. Cuffs, chains, whips and paddles all have there place in our relationship.
But that's not all...... I have  responsibility, as shi's owner to bring out and enhance the real shi. There are times when a firm thrashing works well, other times a relentless fucking does the trick. That's what slavery is about, is'nt it?
A couple of nights ago, shi pulled her floor cushion to my feet as I was sitting on the sofa. shi laid her head on my thigh and snuggled up against my leg. Pretty soon my fingers were running softly through her hair, and shi was totally relaxed. Then I spotted it. The wooden hair brush that I bought for shi. It's one of those oval wooden  brushes with a handle, idea for ass spanking.
As shi was nicely relaxed, breathing softly against my thigh, I reached out for the brush and put it to good use ........ brushing her hair for what seemed like a long time.
It was an intimate, spontaneous moment for both of us and not at all out of place and I know that we both enjoyed it.
My point is that though there are times of pain in shi's slavery, this is balanced by those tender and intimate moments that  are nothing to do with sex.
Ying and Yang...... It makes it work and it increases the intensity.

Our time is close by......

Neither shi or I have been able to post since Christmas. It has been a busy time for us both and for the next week it is likely to become even busier as shi makes her final preparations to cross the ocean and bring us together, finally.
It is the end of one journey and the beginning of another for both of us, almost four years in the travelling (so far).
So, to our followers, we apologise. There will be more, much more to come in a few days but for another week there is a lot to accomplish for both of us.
Our new dawn is breaking, soon we will welcome you back into our sunshine.


Raden

Merry Xmas

Here in the UK we are basking in unseasonal autumn weather!
The calendar says it 25th December, Bing Crosby's White Christmas has been on repeat shuffle all morning, there is multi colour wrapping paper in the trash, the smell of roast duck permeates the house, steam is filling the kitchen, and there is a glass of port on the kitchen counter for the cook :0)
Yep... its Chrismas.


Merry Christmas to you and yours. Happy Holidays one and all.

Slut etc (Raden's Post)

This post has been removed from this blog to prevent offence.
To view it go to  Slut and other offensive words

Pride II (From Raden)

You have a six pack, my waistline is has seen better days, so what? You have a shiny new car on the drive, I ride a bike or take the bus, so what? Your clothes all have designer labels, mine just fit and are practical, so what? You live in a five bed house on a private road in an exclusive part of town, do I care? 
That's the trouble with pride. These days it's more about what you have than who you are!
For me, and call me old school if you want to, being proud of who and what you are beats the crap out of the puffed up, self opinionated possession driven attitudes that are so prevalent in life today. It goes hand in hand with the attitude that says that once you are over 30 you are washed up, once your hair begins to show flashes of silver, you are brain dead and OMG, having crow's feet or bags around the eye's means you cant afford a plastic surgeon to regain your youth. 
My mom had a way of describing it that is too good not to quote "Fur coat and no knickers", and yep that fits perfectly. Pride is not top show, its not flash, neither is it something that gets rammed down everyone's throat. But to many these days, that's just what it is.
Pride, in my view is that warm glow that you get inside that says "Great job.... see you did it". It doesn't need anyone to be exalting your status as a god or goddess. It comes from the quiet satisfaction that you overcame a problem, obstacle, fear, worked hard and just did it even though you may have doubted your ability to succeed. If you are cultured into believing that you are incompetent, you will begin to believe it and you will be just that, incompetent, or any of the negative labels that other may want to hang on you.
As we mature, we change physically and mentally, not for the worse but for the better. I don't and wont believe anything less than that. Sure my six pack turned into a barrel years ago, but it now holds a fine mature wine to savour, not cans of cheap fizzy plonk to piss up the wall on a Saturday night, if you get my drift.
Some would say that a slave should have no place for pride. I don't believe that for one minute. Slavery demands hard work, dedication and a purposeful mind that few possess. A Master/owner should not be endlessly praising his slave, otherwise slavery will dilute into the ordinary. It is for the slave to recognise what they achieve, how well they do and to totally believe in themselves. It is their Masters task to put them on the path and pull them back when they stray off-road.
Forget the cheap, fizzy plonk. It is a joy to savour the fine wine that is a modest yet proud slave.


Be proud...... because you deserve to.

Obedience (Radens post)

Total, unwavering obedience to her Master/owner is one sign of a good slave.

Slavery is not meant to be easy. Some play at it, others live it. Mine will live it when finally shi kneels beside me.

Obedience is not brought about at the will of a whip, it is a frame of mind cultured and developed in a slave either by their Master or because the slave''s mindset naturally burns as a latent desire in the potential slave. Mine is one of the latter and I am fortunate in that respect.

Shi did not anticipate or want an easy life. She will have no control until she learns to live a lesson.

Currently shi is learning a very important lesson, that of total obedience. She is under instruction to stop a life long nail biting habit. Shi has beautiful hands which in my opinion shi spoils with her habit, hence shi is commanded to stop.

This task is not for my benefit. Shi will have a greater reward than I when shi succeeds, and failure is not an option. Shi will know that shi is committed, capable and dedicated. Yes, shi knows the scale of her task better than me and she will do what all slaves have to do..... Obey without question that shi will be proud of herself because of her success in seeing what shi has achieved.

It is not my job to thank her, (but shi knows I will). It is my role to take away everything and create and free all shi is to become. Every milestone shi achieves is her confirmation that shi is Mine, and that I am proud to call her that! Mine.

shi's collar

For those that are interested, this is shi's collar from the maker's web page. It's  Turian style and hers carries a leash ring. It is described by the maker like this:
"This collar is hand made of solid 3/8 inch diameter Stainless Steel. The mating ends are shiplapped. This method for joining gives the collars a smooth and elegant look without unsightly gaps that could draw attention and snag on hair or pinch the skin.
It will not wobble, even when opened by it's 1/8 inch Stainless Steel hinge pin and once secured by a # 8 Stainless Steel Buttonhead Allen screw, it is as one piece."
My choice of collar for shi involved a a great deal of online searching over many days and air freighting thousands of miles. For me (and shi) the choice of collar was perhaps one of the most significant choices I  have made or am ever likely to make. It had to be right.
The collar is strong, beautiful, made with care and precision, immune from tarnishing and with its leash ring I have absolute control. It is our symbol of everything we are 24/7. What more can I say?

Rules..... the lifeblood of slavery? (Radens post)

My shi has invited me to post on this blog, I hope to make my submissions (of the literary kind) thought provoking if not down right challenging to both sides of TPE. To avoid any confusion my posts will be in this dirty gold colour, and labelled "Raden's Post"


Rules. Now there's a topic to wrestle with, as shi and I have done at times. For me there is one rule and that is sufficient, "Do as I say and learn from it". Frankly there is no need for more. We talk, I decide. Simple!
TPE is dependant on training and trust, and without trust, you can have thousands of silly rules to cover any challenging situation. That is not TPE in my mind.
shi has posted her "rules" on this site, they are a work in progress only, but unlike many slave rule lists I have seen that get longer and longer and longer..... this work in progress is more likely to get shorter! It has to or I will fail in the other aspect, training. Rules, to me are the standard. No arguing, no discussion a rule is to be obeyed. Fail and a period of punishment follows. Forget to wear your seat belt in your car and the cops will kick your ass. The same principle applies. Do it or suffer the consequences! 
The idea is, anywhere in life, set up a rule, train and re-train until it becomes second nature then the rule is embedded into daily life. Period.
Do I need a rule that says that shi will be naked at home in my presence unless given permission to wear clothing? Today I do, but once shi knows the boundaries and respects them faultlessly its a lifestyle. I trust her to know what is required and to deliver it. shi trusts me not to make her cook food on the hob without an apron to protect her from spitting fat or a falling sharp knife. After all shi knows as well as I do, that while I may whip her to tears, it is still my duty to care for my prized possessions protecting them from accidental damage. Sometimes common sense is a rule. 
So a rule is there to build trust and serve a lifestyle aspiration. Once its second nature, either the rule gets altered to reflect further development, or it become pointless as it is part of life.
I see far too many lists of "Rules" that could be reduced to a few salient points that work just as well as 50 pointless deviations from a minor theme.
Speaking personally, shi and I speak openly and frankly about our life.I know her limits, shi knows mine. Our limits will change as our trust and confidence in one another grows. After all, our lifestyle will be living life to its limits. Life changes and without open, honest, respectful communication having 500 rules is as pointless as one.